Sunday 9 May 2010

Note to Mom.

I wonder what it means if your mother cries out of disappointment on Mother's Day.

Could it be because of the extensive absence of her daughter from the household?

Could it be because she can't visit her own mother without having to visit her brother who lives nearby who demands to be visited? And since he demands it, her husband refuses to visit.

Could it be because when she didn't want to visit her mother for the reasons stated above she was patronized by her husband, who shouted at her for ditching her mother on mother's day just because he (the husband) didn't want to visit her brother.

A person who has too many loyalties will fall apart one day.

As a mother, a wife, a daughter, you tend to lose touch with reality because you feel you need to be there for your child, your husband, or your mother. Too many loyalties.

It's easy for me to say, I know. I am not a mother and even when I do become a parent I will not know the feelings a mother has. BUT I know one thing:

(a) If you want to bloody do something, your child, husband, and mother have no right to tell you not to.

(b) If you want to to bloody visit your brother because you don't want him to be upset, so be it. No one has the right to tell you not to. They can only say that your decision to visit your brother shouldn't be a prerequisite to visit your brother. And you shouldn't get upset by their words. Because it is your life and your decision. And it's not like you visit often anyway. They stay in bloody Shah Alam anyway.

(c) NO ONE has the right to tell you how you should behave. Neither your children, your husband, nor your mother or brothers. If you think you should let your daughter carry on with her life, your mother shouldn't tell you that you are wrong. Because she did not bring your daughter up. YOU did.

Live for you. Not your children, husband, or parents. I, as your son, will not tell you how to run your life because I know you know better or you know what you want.

1 comment:

Alexander CTS said...

love of a son to his mom. =)